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Friday Roundup: Stand Like You Mean It

The end of the week can be a time for burn-out. For exhaustion. For phoning-it-in, because you just cannot anymore.

It’s time to stand up.

That’s not a metaphor. I really want you to stand up. Straight and tall. Like you mean it. (Don’t laugh, just do it. Trust me.)

Body language is about how others see us, but its also about how we see ourselves. Are you a hunched over, burned-out leader with nothing left to give?

Hell to the no. 

There’s really something to this whole “fake it till you make it” thing. And part of that comes down to how you hold yourself. Don’t be afraid to take up space. Spread out and settle in. Because according to Amy Cuddy, how you present yourself can make all the difference — literally:

Sometimes, it can feel as though you have nothing left to give. But even in that lowest of low, you can still stand tall. Don’t get into the habit of demeaning yourself before you even get started. You’re better than that. You’re a sparkling, crazy bright firework. #ShineOn

A few more reasons to stand up and put yourself out there:

01. A visual guide to Amy Cuddy’s power poses

02. Surprising (and important!) things your body language is telling the world

03. The right moves to build trust

04. How to be instantly likeable, even when you feel like that crazy witch from Tangled

05. Trick yourself into crazy confidence (Ariana Grande, eat your heart out)

Friday Roundup: Break out of that Rut

Wake up. Coffee. Kids. Crazy. Work, work, work. Home. Food. Laugh. Sleep.

Lather, rinse, repeat.

How do you know when a routine has become a rut? When you stop noticing the good stuff. When miss the employee who’s been pulling off stellar work all week. When you have a sad desk lunch and burn your tongue slurping down a burning-lava-hot lean cuisine while trying to tap out an email on your phone. When your eyes skip over the Chris Hemsworth doppelgänger in front of you at the grocery without one appreciative thought. When you go to bed thinking, “How will I do this all again tomorrow?

Start thinking differently. Wake up to music — try this song — instead of that annoying alarm beep, and groove out. Smile, even if you don’t feel like it. Reaffirm the people around you — let your team know that you trust them and build them up when they’re doing something right — even when you’re crazy busy and stressed out yourself. Redefine your priorities. What’s on your to-do list? Now look again and cross out three things that are unimportant, unnecessary, or easily done by someone else. Breathe. Laugh out loud. Meditate — or don’t, the choice is what matters.

Live thoughtfully, because “someday” is right now.

Redefine work-life balance with these tips from around the web:

01. An unconventional rap on how to remember the important stuff

02. How to visualize what you want, so you can figure out how to get it done

03. 15 simple productivity changes you can make right here, right now

04. Jen Gotch talks creativity and the importance of breaking free from restraint. And she has rad hair.

05.  Get sh*t done. Even when you really couldn’t care less.

Friday Roundup: Get Out of Your Own Way

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Since when did ambition become expectation? We don’t let ourselves enjoy the beginnings anymore. We expect perfection — the best job, the right partner, the most “share-worthy” hobbies — from ourselves, right out of the gate. We get inspired by stories of hard work, of effort, of getting back up after every failure. And yet we don’t give ourselves the same grace or leeway. We expect the result, without the hard work. We want to be the exception to the rule.

Are the expectations you set for yourself unrealistic? 

Don’t get me wrong: it’s good, imperative even, to have goals. We’re all striving for something outside of — beyond — ourselves.  And the hope is we get there.  But what if we don’t? And more than likely, we won’t get there on the first try. Does that make the journey less rewarding?

Hell no!

Wherever you are right now: you’re remarkable. You’re trying, you’re pushing, you’re freakin’ living. And yeah, maybe right now, you’re not exactly where you want to be (welcome to the “being human” ride). In fact, you may have pretty far to go. You may have some pieces to pick up. Doors to open. Doors to close. But isn’t that what life is for? Not for berating ourselves when we don’t get there fast enough, fall short, or miss the boat entirely. But instead, reveling in our failure  — because it means we discovered something about ourselves, our career, our lives.

So I’m asking you to ditch your expectations. Stop playing the comparison game. Push yourself because you love what you do. Push yourself because you CAN.  Push yourself not because you need to prove to everyone in the entire universe (animal kingdom included) you’re awesome — but because you, quite simply, want to enjoy this ride called life.

Remember friend, you were born BOMBDIGGITY.

Get crazy inspired by these words of wisdom:

01. Average can be awesome

02. There aren’t many shortcuts to greatness

03. Let’s build a culture of openness, a culture where failure can be powerful

04. How to fail forward

05. Doubt is not your friend

Stay amazing, my friends.

Friday Roundup: F*ck Perfection

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Too often in life, we expect perfection. We want to get it right, the first time. We want to know exactly what we’re doing. In other words, we want control.

Well, friends, you’ll never guess… life is uncontrollable. It’s unpredictable. It’s unfair. In experiencing these realities, we grow and we learn. Without failure, without struggle, there can be no discovery.

As leaders, we’re often expected to know all — as if that’s possible. We put pressure on ourselves to eliminate ‘weakness and show our world — our coworkers, our subordinates, our fellow leaders, our friends, our family — that we are in control.

Hear this now: You don’t have to pretend anymore.

Show your strength by making missteps,  discovering new ideas,  welcoming new experiences. Seek out and embrace failure as a tool to grow. When you allow yourself to be vulnerable, weird, funny, confusing, real — you lead from within. So often we allow our fear, our anxieties, our doubt stop us from expressing our most authentic self. Trust me, the world (and leadership) is changing — transparency, vulnerability, love — these are the key ingredients to leadership now.

Be willing to lead the way.

The secret to inspiring, incredible, life-changing leadership is within you – not outside of you. Pull it out. Show it off. Lead us.

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Resources to inspire soul-deep leadership:

01. Ira Glass on the beauty of beginning

02. Tapping into your deepest creativity — and exposing it to the world from Danielle LaPorte

03. Deepak Chopra explores the soul of leadership

04. Passion vs. professionalism

05. Making Big Magic in your life & leadership

Thought for Friday: More vs. Better

Fill in the blank:

I could really be happy if I had _________, _________, and _________.

I’m guessing you have a stockpile of answers to this question. Maybe it’s that raise you’ve been waiting for, a better job, those black suede boots, an extra two hours everyday.

We live in a culture of more, of “better, faster, now.” We get what we want and then forget to savor it. We’ve already moved on to wanting the next thing, and our society gives it to us. Any information and any distraction you could dream up is literally at your fingertips, but we’re not happier. Why is that?

If you have the time, this interview with Josh Radnor (How I Met Your Mother, Liberal Arts) is well worth the listen. At around the halfway mark, the actor makes a thoughtful, compelling remark: “This is it — and there’s no where else to get to.”

This is the moment to be happy, to experience life. Don’t waste your valuable time, attention, and consciousness on the idea of happiness, when you could be living your own happiness, right now.

Happy Friday, friends.

Friday Roundup: “Un-masking” Yourself

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We all have layers (just like ogres, remember?) — different facets of our personalities that combine to make us complex, rich beings. When we let these complexities shine — when we revel in all our layers — our unique creativity, our “spark” is truly set free. I get it — revealing our layers is easier said than done. Things like fear, doubt, and envy compel us to hide our layers; dulling our energy in favor of fitting in or playing it safe in our surroundings. If we aren’t recklesspassionateweird … then we can’t get hurt, right?

Let me suggest something different: your layers — your unique set of skills, accomplishments, and fire are your ticket to success. The simplest way to do something different, something revolutionary, is to be yourself — layers and all.

Today, stop thinking of a “leader” as someone who followed a certain set of rules to get where they are. It’s not time to throw out the rulebook… it’s time to acknowledge there never was a rulebook. Stop giving too much credence to other people’s titles and positions and previous successes. Don’t fall into the comparison trap. Ricky Gervais said it best,

“The best advice I’ve ever received is, ‘No one else knows what they’re doing either.’ “

Make mistakes. Be crazy, be silly, be serious, inspired, angry, introspective. Don’t fight your feelings. Embrace your layers. Take advice and support, but don’t be ruled by it. Rule yourself instead.

Feeling pumped? Check these out:

01. Go out into the world and fuck it up beautifully

02. Here’s to the crazy ones

03. Under no obligation

04. Program your mind for success

05. (Pretty) words to live by

Friday Roundup: Growing in your Leadership

Growth is at the forefront of leadership success.  It’s critical — especially in leadership. Trying to lead from a fixed place will ultimately kill you.  Staying stagnant, we don’t allow for shifting, blooming – we stifle our potential and the potential of those around us.  When we block out the sun, we block out the fire, the heat – and we ultimately lead from a place of performance, imitation and complacency.

According to Carol Dweck, Professor of Psychology at Stanford, when we train our brains to function from a place of growth — from the growth mindset, as she calls it — we develop and transform. But when we approach our lives from a fixed mindset, we see our abilities and talents as chained and rigid. We are what we are. End of story.

Your leadership story is always evolving — no matter your age or status. There is always more to learn, more to discover, more inspiration to be tapped. The catch? You have to seek it out.

What is your commitment to leadership and learning?  How are you occupying your world — whether it be the boardroom or the bedroom? True growth begins with turning toward the sunlight and fanning the flames of your fire.

So my friend, how hot do you want to get today?

Tips for growing into your fierce leadership:

01. Grow into your breakthrough

02. Self Awareness is the key to developing your leader muscle

03. How personal growth fosters professional growth

04. An fill-in chart to guide your personal growth plan

05. 10 tips on positioning yourself for growth

Here’s to more fire in the belly fellow leader!

Friday Roundup: Breakup or Make Up?

It’s weird.  Sometimes a week can feel 10x longer than it usually does. And especially looooong when little frustrations start to pile up into something substantial. You know the days I’m talking about — when you see your big ideas have gone unappreciated, when you get stuck in an hour long meeting where nothing is accomplished but small talk, when you’re bogged down with irritating, small busy work instead of generating bold new opportunities. We all have those days and we generally shake it off (thanks Taylor) — and return the next day ready for a (somewhat) fresh start.

What happens when those days start to become weeks? You’re finding it harder and harder to “shake it off” in an increasingly toxic, lackluster environment, yet… you don’t want to just give up. It’s time to ask yourself whether or not YOU can make a difference where you are. And if the answer is no — it may be time to consider a breakup. In order to move on to the bigger and brighter future waiting for you.

Quitting isn’t something to take lightly — all those “Never Give Up” mantras aren’t just hot air — but it is a valid personal choice to consider. A great leader grows where they’re planted – they’re resourceful and creative. But nothing grows without the basics of sunlight and soil. If the environment is dark, if the culture is creepy, if the boss is disrespectful, if you’re dying on the vine waiting on someone to step in and pluck you away…  you may be wasting your precious time. Bad days can (and will) happen anywhere you work, that is just your messy, beautiful life in action. But “enduring” and “suffering” isn’t your job or your life. We are meant to thrive — full of life, possibility and potential. If your current situation is stripping you of sunshine and soil, consider how you can make a fresh start — either there… or somewhere else.

Whatever you choose, know that YOU are in control of your future. You can change your job. Change YOU. Or stay and suffer (not recommended). Your success is on your terms and only you know whether the place you’re in now can give you what you need to succeed. Take the first step and decide: Will you breakup, change yourself up or linger as a victim?

Not to worry — we’ve got all sorts of advice from around the web to support you:

01. How to know if you care too much

02. Life is short. Don’t let it run you.

03. How to decipher the signals that may be telling you something you’re missing

04. Thoughts on when NOT to quit

05. And just for fun: If you can’t beat ’em, join ’em with these handy “tips”

Friday RoundUp: Is it time to DTR?

Business is personal and it’s time to get busy (if you know what I mean) with business.

Imagine you’ve just finished the fourth date in a series of amazing dates. You’re clicking with him/her. You love being together. You feel happy, awash with possibility.  But… suddenly fear shows up — are you on the same page? What is the other person thinking? You feel out-of-sorts, wondering if you desire similar things. You know you’re ready for more. Dare we say the word… (gasp!) commitment.

It’s time to DTR (Deepen the Relationship).

It’s similar in business too.  Did you know that only 8% of full-time employees work less than 40 hours per week?  Yes.  The rest of us are working 40 hours or more!  Which means most of us spend OVER half our day at work.

Life doesn’t start after 5’oclock folks.  And a meaningful life doesn’t exist only outside the corporate office.

Relationships (and emotions) take place in our business world too — whether we are willing to acknowledge it or not.  And yet, most of us keep our company and co-workers are arms-length. Not allowing ourselves to show up authentically, fully expressed, committed.  And because of that, we live half-lives — never fully ‘in’, never fully engaged.

Life is long. Work is important. Employees desire connection and meaning. Today, stop spending so much time on the surface — unengaged, floating, bored. Practice going a bit deeper. A bit more expressed.

Consider it’s time to stop playing games — and take the plunge.  Bringing that kind of wholeheartedness to work every day will be quite the turn on.

Tips on cultivating your relationship with your business:

01. The power of starting with Yes

02. How to handle relational growth & change

03. 9 habits of exceptional relationship builders

04. Business partnerships & marriage have more in common than you think

05. Master the basics to enjoy your business more

Happy Labor Day weekend!

Friday Roundup: Time Out

Wouldn’t it be nice to finally have enough time? Time for a leisurely cup of coffee, time for an extra yoga class, time to take a few deep breaths?

Life can often times feel like a constant push and pull against an imaginary clock.  Rush, rush, rush, BUZZ. Time’s up.

And we set it up perfectly that way – on our phones, our tablets, our Fitbits and Apple Watches.  We are constantly reminded that time is ticking by.

Let’s make the effort to pivot our thinking.  Let’s stop the internal countdowns and start living. Instead of viewing moments to ourselves as “breaks,” let’s view them as necessary and essential for our continued success and wellbeing.

What we give power to has power over us.

Don’t be a victim to the finite minutes of your day.  Take back your power. Own your day. Live fuller.

Inevitably time will pass us by. What really matters is how we CHOOSE to spend it. If you looked back on this day a month, a year, five years down the road, what would you want to remember?

Stop the countdown. Live present, be present, feel present. Remember, you have the power to make today a day to remember.

Tips & inspiration for beating the clock by working smarter:

01. A visual guide to working smarter

02. Get productive & enjoy more time

03. Unusual ways to prevent unnecessary stress

04. Workday “hacks” to keep you on task

05. 6 minutes from Danielle LaPorte that will revolutionize your thinking

Happy weekend, friends! Take YOUR time these next few days. Live for yourself. It’s not greedy or selfish or wrong. It’s living freely and fully. Cheers to that!