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2016 is About to Get #Legendary

Congratulations, friends!! We made it through another amazing year.  And because of that… a little Rhianna (#ShineBright) is in order (you knew I had to include some music and dancing to celebrate!).  And WOAH what a year! Full of life, laughter, mess, loss, change, and challenge. And now, just before we embark on the next chapter of our lives, let’s take a moment to breathe deeply, reflect, and… celebrate!  The world is covered in twinkle lights and holiday cheer is all around us. It’s a magical time, indeed.

Don’t let that magic pass you by.

My proudest moments included discovering and reinventing being mom and wife… building out an incredible, KICK ASS coaching business (every single one of my clients ROCK)… publishing my book (crazy insane!)… being committed to advancing and educating girls through GirlUp, and so many other things.  Amazing, right?!  Some of life worked in 2015 — some of it didn’t — but I can laugh at the silly, stupid, awkward moments, and let the tears fall when remembering the hardest nights, the darkest days.

Allow 2016 to be the year of YOU. Start challenging yourself now, so you can hit the ground running on January 1st. Don’t fall into the trap of New Year’s resolutions that peter out in the third cold, dreary week of January. Instead, answer these questions and put yourself to the test to define your willpower, you strength, and your incredible determination for the upcoming year. You ready? Let’s do this thang.

What do you want the overarching theme of your 2016 to be? 
Where do you envision yourself on this very day, next year?

What do you want to remember when the year is over?
What do you most want to discover, create, and explore?
What will yo
u let go of… and what will you feed?

And if you’re up for a partner in the process — hit me up… I know a thing or two about achieving goals and removing the ‘stuff’ that gets in the way. Sometimes just one conversation can change EVERYTHING.

You’re on your way, friends.  Remember… this life ain’t no dress rehearsal, so #ShineBright NOW.

Merry everything!!  Cheers to 2016!

Magical Monday: Let Your Actions Speak

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Choice is powerful

I’ve learned the hard way that making choices for ourselves — taking responsibility for our actions and choosing not to be victims to our reactionary lives — isn’t always a walk in the park. There are truths about ourselves that are hard to face. There are past choices that are scary to confront. Going deeper with yourself is raw and emotional, but ultimately revitalizing.

Today is not just a Monday. It is an opportunity to know, understand, and appreciate your self better.

The real question is: Are you up for it? #MagicalMonday

Friday Roundup: Stand Like You Mean It

The end of the week can be a time for burn-out. For exhaustion. For phoning-it-in, because you just cannot anymore.

It’s time to stand up.

That’s not a metaphor. I really want you to stand up. Straight and tall. Like you mean it. (Don’t laugh, just do it. Trust me.)

Body language is about how others see us, but its also about how we see ourselves. Are you a hunched over, burned-out leader with nothing left to give?

Hell to the no. 

There’s really something to this whole “fake it till you make it” thing. And part of that comes down to how you hold yourself. Don’t be afraid to take up space. Spread out and settle in. Because according to Amy Cuddy, how you present yourself can make all the difference — literally:

Sometimes, it can feel as though you have nothing left to give. But even in that lowest of low, you can still stand tall. Don’t get into the habit of demeaning yourself before you even get started. You’re better than that. You’re a sparkling, crazy bright firework. #ShineOn

A few more reasons to stand up and put yourself out there:

01. A visual guide to Amy Cuddy’s power poses

02. Surprising (and important!) things your body language is telling the world

03. The right moves to build trust

04. How to be instantly likeable, even when you feel like that crazy witch from Tangled

05. Trick yourself into crazy confidence (Ariana Grande, eat your heart out)

Magical Monday: Stressed Out

The best days of your life. People say it about all kinds of things: high school, college, falling in love, having an amazing hair day, finding that perfect taco.

We look back on these days — the “best” days —as being simpler, less stressful, less adult. We think back to when we were children with nostalgia — as Twenty One Pilots so beautifully expresses:

I was told when I get older all my fears would shrink,
But now I’m insecure and I care what people think. 

But why are we denying ourselves the majority of our lives? What if they are all the best days?

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The secret is to stop looking at today as just another day in your ordinary life. Today is a miracle. I know, I know, that sounds totally cliche. But bear with me here. Today, you get to live another day of your fabulous, extraordinary, ordinary life. Today isn’t just a Monday. It’s YOUR Monday. Make it a priority to stop caring what people think of you today. To stop worrying and stressing out about what you cannot control. Make it your mission to remember today as one of the best days of your life — because even a Monday can be magical.

Monday Inspiration: #BareYourSoul

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You are a fiery heart. A wicked brain. A gorgeous soul.

You are more than what you see in the mirror. You are more than a label. More than a limitation. More than you ever imagined.

Your soul in on fire. With love, with kindness, with integrity. Bare that fire. Show the world your soul — because your soul is where you’ll find who you really are.

Take a risk this Monday, friends.

Monday Inspiration: Lose Your Cool

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Stress, anger, annoyance — these feelings can be poisonous, spreading and infecting the longer we allow them free reign over our minds and bodies. We can try to bottle them all up — to keep moving, moving, moving — because it we don’t acknowledge them, they aren’t there. Right?

It’s time to take a moment. A moment for yourself. A moment to let all those toxic feelings building up inside you run out. Because that build-up of negativity is bad news — for your mental and physical health. An ongoing study funded by the John Templeton Foundation has shown that “nursing a hurt leads to agitation and hostility that linger even after a person stops thinking about the incident.” These lingering feelings can lead to a greater risk for depression and heart disease, as well as a whole host of other potential health problems. Holding onto resentment, stress, anger is a losing game.

So today, do your body and your mind a favor — and scream if you need to. Throw a pillow across the room. Cry. Laugh. Get it out so you can let it go. So you can be healthy, happy, free.

It’s not wrong to take the time you need. It’s not wrong to express your feelings. Lose your cool, because this is living. It’s messy and crazy and beautiful. And you wouldn’t have it any other way.

Thought for Friday: #SelfTalk

We all have an inner monologue — it’s our reality check, our embarrassment meter, our own personal narrator.

We take that inner dialogue as gospel. It’s the essence of truth becomes it comes directly from us. No outside influence, no bias, no nonsense. All truth, all the time.

I call bullshit. 

Consider this: you don’t have to listen to that voice. Sure, it’s YOUR inner dialogue. But just because it’s the voice inside your head doesn’t mean it knows what it’s talking about. That voice?  It’s collected a whole lot of evidence over your lifetime to create the resistance that ultimately keeps you away from the BIG, BOLD life you dream of living.   That story?  That voice?  No one can hear it except you…

Sometimes we can be our own worst critics.  And we know… it’s easier to tear ourselves down and give up than to stand up, declare something BIG then take action to make it happen.  I get it – that takes risk, vulnerability – guts.  But we all know:  no guts, no glory.

Take a few minutes (six, to be exact) to watch this Dove campaign. Two sketches are drawn of seven women. The first sketch is based on her description of herself. The second on a stranger’s description of her. See how the two sketches compare:

You are more brilliant and beautiful than you think. 

No matter what that voice has told you in the past… allow me to begin to paint your picture: you’re capablebravesignificant.

Now go out into the world and live it.

Monday Inspiration: Do It Anyway

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Pop Quiz: What do you want to do with your life? 

Is it what you’re doing from 9 to 5 everyday? (If so, lucky you.)

But maybe it’s something different — something you’ve been searching for and trying to understand for a while now. Your passion. That intangible spark of excitement, glory, pure happiness that hits us when we are doing exactly what we’ve been made to do.

Have you recognized passion in yourself lately? 

So many times we say “I don’t know what I want to do” or “I don’t know what I’m supposed to be doing with my life” without really thinking it through. We say it like a toss away comment — think “I’m so tired” or “This weather is good” — and we let ourselves believe it. Don’t fall into that trap. Chances are, your passion is staring you in the face. I promise you, there’s no way you were born to just pay bills and die. In between going to work at a thankless job and dealing with the mundane realities of life, you’ll find that passion. What you do when no one is watching, when nothing is at stake, when you think you’re just enjoying yourself… that’s passion. Take it from Jessica Hische,

“The work you do while you procrastinate is probably the work you should be doing for the rest of your life.” 

Mind. Blown.

Stop wondering about your passion and stop questioning what you should do with your life. Playing that kind of waiting game is not going to get you where you want to go. Don’t hesitate. Find your passion in the unguarded moments of your life. And then run with it.

Thought for Friday: Living with Purpose

What does living with purpose really mean?

You may be striving to find your own purpose by looking outward — at your career, at your circle, at the “things” you do everyday. The issue? You’re looking in the wrong direction.

Your purpose is not defined by your surroundings, by the state of the world around you. Your purpose lives within you. It is with you, everywhere you go. The catch? It’s up to YOU to bring your purpose forth. To live through your purpose in everything you do — whether you’re in the career of your dreams or still trying to find your feet.

Today, stop waiting for purpose to show up in front of you. Hate to be the one to break it to you, but it’s just not that easy (if only!). Don’t let yourself be sucked in to the waiting game. Start now. How can you bring your purpose, your passions, your fire, to what you’re doing right this second? How can you live your dreams, right here, right now? It seems impossible, until you start.

When you speak and run your business from a place of #purpose, others gravitate toward that. @JulieSmolyansky… Click To Tweet

Happy Friday (and happy early halloween!), friends.

Monday Inspiration: Defining Your Circle

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The people we surround ourselves with — our family, friends, colleagues, mentors — are powerful. Our support group when we falter and our cheerleaders when we succeed, our “circle” is there in good times and bad. Because we don’t have to go it alone.

But sometimes — whether by choice or habit — we find ourselves surrounded by “drainers.” Those personalities that suck us dry, rather than lift us up. There’s no room for growth when we are surrounded by pessimistic, ungrateful, negative mindsets. If our circle isn’t building us up, it is dragging us down. As Tim Ferriss succinctly explains,

“… you are the average of the five people you associate with most, so do not underestimate the effects of your pessimistic, unambitious, or disorganized friends. If someone isn’t making you stronger, they’re making you weaker.”

Think about the people closest to you; how do you feel when you’re with them? It’s not rude or ungenerous to distance yourself from someone who brings you down. Surround yourself instead with people living the way you want to live. Don’t underestimate the power of positive thought, of inspirational change. It’s more than OK to put yourself first and recognize what is and isn’t best for YOU.

You are not responsible for the behaviors and actions of others. Your life is yours and their life is theirs. Don’t hold yourself back trying to change what cannot be changed. Instead, transform your surroundings and carefully cultivate your circle to those that will lift you up unconditionally, with — dare I say it, LOVE. And while you’re at it — strive to be the same inspiration for those around you.